These days, the term tends to be used – sometimes rightly, sometimes wrongly perhaps – to describe men who are just, well, very typically ‘male’.

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But the good news is that, by understanding the way an AS man’s brain is wired and making the most of his qualities, it is possible to bring out the best in him – and have a fulfilling, or certainly less frustrating, relationship.

Men with (suspected) Asperger’s are everywhere – in the highest offices of power and at the top of the most influential companies.

According to Maxine Aston, another Asperger’s counsellor and author, dating websites have ‘opened the floodgates’, allowing those with AS to enter the romance game.

The clinical detachment with which an AS man may survey his options online, instead of having to engage in verbal banter and throw out body language cues in a social environment (translation: flirt, get drunk and snog), has opened up a whole world of new relationship possibilities for these types of men.

Professor Simon Baron-Cohen, Britain’s leading authority on autism, argues that all autism is, in fact, just varying degrees of ‘having an extreme male brain’, which emphasises systemising over empathising (an extreme female brain would do the opposite, and a ‘balanced brain’ would do both equally).

So much credence has been given to his point of view that it now has its own official name: the Extreme Male Brain (EMB) theory of autism.

If a lack of social skills, zero sensitivity and puzzling behaviour sums up your spouse, he could have Asperger’s syndrome, says Charlotte Pearson Methven.

But if you focus on the positive aspects, it could make him the ideal husband Is your other half more likely to remember the score of the FA Cup final 12 years ago than he is to buy a present for your child’s birthday?

‘Nine times out of ten it is the female partner who instigates the [AS] diagnosis,’ says Sarah Hendrickx, whose partner Keith, a computer programmer whom she met online, is on the spectrum; this they know because she had him assessed for it shortly after they met.

Sarah, inspired by their journey together, has written the bestselling Asperger Syndrome: A Love Story and two other books on the topic, and also set up a practice counselling couples and individuals dealing with AS.

condition too, as the recent diagnosis of singer Susan Boyle demonstrates.