THE FACTORS THAT SHOULD BE IN PLAY BEFORE YOU START DATING YOUR BEST FRIEND 1) A mutual (and intense) desire--ON BOTH SIDES--to give it a whirl.2) The LACK of some major precipitating event.

I had a great time with him--we were always laughing; always talking about interesting things; always comfortable discussing our emotions, fears and insecurities. In other words, it was hard to imagine a more ideal boyfriend. for whatever decidedly peculiar reason, I'd never felt an overwhelming urge to get it on with him.

Plus, he's very tall and quite handsome--an indubitably attractive guy (whom the ladies generally love).

If the relationship goes well, you'll be swept away at how a good friend turned out to be an even better boyfriend. We've all dated someone with whom we spent more time getting hot-and-heavy than in actual conversation.

Trust us, you'll swear off the random guys you meet during happy hour forever! The moment of truth inevitably arrives during a long car ride, when you have no choice but to put on the radio because the two of you have no common interests.

It took a few months before Jake and I began to hang out again.

But then one afternoon, after we'd both (independently) moved out of D. to return to New York, I was getting my hair cut at my old favorite place--Antonio Prieto--when it dawned on me that I was just down the street from Jake's new office.You be really happy for them, and explain that if they ever broke up (terrible suggestion, you know, but it is possible, heaven forbid) that you will refuse to take sides and they are never to put you in the middle of any of their fights or arguements. If you feel like they're checking off a lot of the things on this list already and you don't feel the need to find someone else, then you should either commit to them or cool things down a bit so you can find a fulfilling relationship. You've never tried to set them up with your friends. Aren't you ready for someone who still makes for good company even after the passion starts to plateau?Plus, just imagine the energy that you and a friend-turned-boyfriend will share after months (even years! At the same time, after considering it for a minute or two, I realized that if I give it a try, my reluctance could create a weird dynamic which could very well do serious damage to the friendship--maybe as much as a failed romance would. --because there doesn't seem to be much else to explain it.