This is called counter dependency, which I have written about before. If we go for people with whom we know it won't work out, it hurts less than putting ourselves out there with someone it actually might work out with.There was a time when I actually used to spend hours trying to figure out what a guy's flaky behaviors meant. You are 100% allowed to have the "where is this going?

Why does he say he wants to hang out, but instead of making plans, just likes my Facebook statuses?

Why does he talk to me every day for a week and then go MIA?

Essentially, the relationship has distinct characteristics you thought were only associated with 'serious' relationships.

Anyone with some semblance of a dating life in their history knows this phase and it's either totally great or a serious bummer (depending upon what you're looking for) because you're still technically allowed to date other people and get away with it.

We get along, we make each other laugh, we are interested in each other's lives, we can go out for meals in public and have things to say and wait… And, at some point, it either needs to progress or stop.

If the two of you are truly enjoying each other's company in and outside of the bedroom, I hate to tell you, but you both have the case of the feels.

Here are five things I've learned about casual sex: After a series of disappointments, I had no choice but to examine the role I was playing in all of this. I'd meet a guy, we'd hit it off and just when I started to feel like I could trust him, he'd turn into a giant flake.

I would then blame myself for being stupid enough to experience human emotions. Once I figured out why I was choosing them, my entire perspective changed.

We think it makes us weak or that feelings lead to a loss of our freedom or independence.

Casual sex can be respectful, but it requires honesty, communication and the strength to walk away when you realize someone is unwilling to give you what you want.

But, this doesn't mean you have to stop living your lives and enter a serious, long-term, monogamous relationship. Before you can figure out what you want, stop calling it what it isn't.