A relationship with the wrong individual, however, can lead to years of heartache, emotional/social abuse, and even verbal, mental and physical abuse. So it is very important to really KNOW who you are dating in the first place BEFORE you marry them..

We hold our tempers in check, we let things go, and we give the "benefit of the doubt." This is called the "honeymoon period" and it can last as long as two years.

So because most individuals always put on a happy face when first dating, it's difficult to determine what type of individual you are dating.

In one sense, they have always lived with this personality and behavior, often something they probably learned from their relatives/family.

Psychologists usually treat the victims of A Controller, women or men who arrive at the office severely depressed with their self-confidence and self-esteem totally destroyed.

Most relationships begin with everyone being on their best behavior.

We are nice, polite, respectful, non-judgmental, sweet, loving and kind.

Years ago men like this were called "Smooth talking sales men and " Con artists." So, they can APPEAR to be good, but in reality they are not only bad, but VERY BAD.

A Controller is a type of partner that creates much social, emotional and psychological damage in a relationship.

Both you and the date are guarded, trying to obtain information about the other as much as possible without seeming like a police detective.

Romantic relationships can and should be wonderful with the correct person.

If he or she hits you, twists your arm, pulls your hair, kicks you, shoves you, or breaks your personal property EVEN ONCE, drop them.