The truth is, he wants to, but his deep insecurities are coming in the way, and the fact that he’s appearing unhelpful in your eyes just adds to the torture he’s experiencing. Not every ‘opportunity’ is a good one Sometimes, it’s you who wants to help your partner.

When the chance for a promotion comes up, you know that they deserve it and can very well get it if they pitch for it.

There’s a tendency to overdramatise and often romanticise dating with depression and anxiety.

These are completely different from social anxiety, as is social anxiety disorder or social phobia.

The intensity of feelings ranges from introversion, shyness, and goes up to social anxiety and finally phobia.

It’s not you; it’s them First things first – you’re already dealing with someone who’s beating himself up; the last thing he needs is a partner who does the same! One person’s normal is another person’s panic attack For you, a quick trip to the bank or grocery store may seem like something you can do without batting an eyelid, but for the socially anxious person, this constitutes an ‘event.’ Any kind of social situation that seems mild to regular people is a big deal for an anxious person, simply because there are others involved. What’s sauce for the goose is NOT sauce for the gander Bungee jumping may be fun, but it’s not everyone’s cup of tea.

Don’t take an anxious behavior as an indication of the way he or she feels about you; it is only an extension of their inner fears and nothing to do with you. Dancing at a club –more likely to be a popular pastime, but for someone with social anxiety, this is far from fun!

But mental health is far from glamorous, and I would argue, far from being a big deal.

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In the 2002 movie ‘Adaptation,’ Nicholas Cage has a double role – one, a screenwriter named Charlie and the other, Charlie’s twin, Donald.

As you can see, social anxiety falls somewhat in the middle of the spectrum, which is why it is so easy to confuse it with something milder like introversion, or something severe like phobia.