Woman A: Definitely early in college when I figured out what I wanted to be in my life.

A date that came with free dinner/drinks was great but if I learned nothing noteworthy from him, I would feel like I’m cutting myself short if I spent more time getting to know this person.

Man A: Being sapiosexual means (to me) that it's really hard for me to have one night stands because generally speaking, I'm not really sexually interested in someone until I've seen that 'spark' in their personality, regardless of their level of physical beauty.

Man B: It means that my perception of someone's intelligence is one of the most important factors in my attraction to them.

Woman B: By how they deal with conflict, I think that intelligent people approach adversity by trying to understand it. " or refusing to discuss something because you disagree just shows a lack of understanding. I feel like it’s pretty easy to tell whether they’re intelligent or not — and if it’s not easy to tell, that’s because they’re socially intelligent, which also counts.

The only guy I’ve ever dated who wasn’t super book smart was very socially intelligent.

I cannot interact with someone who makes subjective statements, rationalizing their opinions with a mere "Well just just how I feel." There is nothing sexier than sitting on a stoop at 4 A. with someone who has made such a compelling argument that I am questioning my own logic, or realizing a bias I never knew I had.

Woman C: I identify as a sapiosexual, because to me talking about chemistry is the equivalent of talking dirty to me.

Man C: Sapiosexual just means sexually attracted to intelligence.

I find smart, creative women extremely attractive, and the inability to converse in an intellectually stimulating way is a major turn-off.

He was super manipulative and could get whatever he wanted from anyone, so he didn’t come off as unintelligent.

Man A: Oh, I feel like that's something you can generally figure out in the first 10 minutes of knowing someone.

I want someone who can discuss with me the relationship between diglossia and social inequality, or who can explain why the cause of my leg pain might actually be pressure on the sciatic nerve in my back.