When you are ready, you'll know it, in the mean time do not be embarrassed if you freak out at the last minute and can't go thru with it.

If your date can't be sympathetic then he is not the type of guy you want to go out with anyway.

On one hand its eternity and on the other it still seems like it just happened. I am sure you will find great support among other widows and widowers, as well as high quality and trained staff to help you along. friends first, we'll see if and when I'm ready for more and where things will lead but... I'm told the real grief work begins with the arrival of the first anniversary... I just want so badly to reclaim my life and the person I am now (I'm not naive enough to believe I can return to who I was). I want to have a fulfilling and loving relationship with a new long-term partner. only those who have been there know what it is truly like. He was my only living parent and as a family we were very close.

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It is not fair to the people you will hurt to jump back into the water too quickly. but for me this last year I have finally felt the darkness lift so that I can move on with my life. It helps having someone who has been through it to talk to. A new person cannot take away the pain of the loss. A year may seem like a long time when you are grieving, but you still have more to do. I tried to date a year after, but it was hard to let go of the loyalty I still felt to my husband. I read every book I could get my hands on regarding the grief process, which was a huge help.

Trying to deal with it on your own will bring you down 10 times more then venting once in awhile. I was forced into being a single parent which was a major life altering event. Until you have dealt with the loss yourself, anyone you date will be along for the greif. I know it is tough, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Ps WHOAMINOW- I think that is what you need to find out :)Well I'm older now, but was 34 when my husband died.

Plentyoffish dating forums are a place to meet singles and get dating advice or share dating experiences etc. Are there any other young widows/widowers with advice to share on dating again? I just had a birthday and that was the worst day since I got the news, I'm sure the holidays are going to be tough.

Hopefully you will all have fun meeting singles and try out this online dating thing... I try to keep myself focused and busy, it helps but when there's nothing left to do I collapse.

Last year was a blur really and never had much time to think about grieving. After all, he wouldnt want me to be miserable all the time.

It has also helped me no end with the rest of the family having young children (1-4 years old)If you want to have a chat about anything then drop me a message and I will help the best that I can, and try and help with some of the mind exercises that I picked up from various web sites.

I don't care if you are dressed and standing in the doorway with your purse in hand.

Believe me, I chckened out several times before I made it out on that first date.

To both of you - You are both so young to be in this terrible situation. If you have to, then just view it as two friends getting together for an entertaining evening. It might even help to let your date know you've not dated since the loss of your husband, but that is not really necessary unless it will make you more comfortable.

About a month ago a friend of mine's husband who was 34 years old was killed instantly by a drunk driver while on his motorcycle. I just want to let you both know that this site is full of great people, both guys and girls. I am told (by my friends mom) that each day gets just a little better than the one before. Married at 19 and my husband was taken out by a drunk driver when I was 25. If you attempt to go out and you do not feel you can, then just let the guy know you are not ready.

It has been a little over 4 years since my wife died. The idea of being alone after being in a great relationship and loosing someone can be so hard to deal with at times you feel like you just don't want to exist.