When he was home, his eyes were trained on his Black Berry. Gone was the man who held my hand during my terrifying emergency C-section, the dad who changed our baby’s very first diaper. Songs I’d never noticed on the radio suddenly had meaning for me. In those first few weeks of single motherhood, my family rallied around me. We agreed that he would take them for dinner two nights a week and for a sleepover every Saturday night.

Two weeks earlier, Phillip, my husband of eight years — my high school sweetheart, best friend, father of my two toddlers, Carrie and Isabelle — had told me he was unhappy. The contents of that envelope marked the end of my marriage.

“Leave me alone.” I knew what my parents wanted to say. But I opened the door for my parents and saw the large white envelope in my dad’s hands.

Personally, I think it’s a question of if you want to get back to it and just entirely quit dating – forever.

Revenge is sweet especially when it’s served up online for everyone to see.

But not everyone is fortunate to recover from this emotionally-charged phase of their lives.“I ditched the idea of dating again and decided to look after my three children,” says Monica Agasha, a 42-year-old retired school teacher now doing her own business.

Her separation from her husband of 10 years left her emotionally shattered that she elected never to engage herself with another man. And she seems to be managing well, considering it’s now five years since their divorce.‘A little time to think’But some argue that moving on and managing to keep your emotions at bay post-divorce requires that you are spiritually, mentally and financially sound.“A woman especially will want to quickly get into a relationship if she does not have means to support herself,” weighs in Patrick Guma, who has gone down the separation lane once before.“For me, I took my time to get back to dating since I had a well-paying job and was not troubled by finances.

Months on, Mukasa resolved to throw a cloth over his past, dump it into the closet, throw away the key and start afresh.

But this begs the question, how do you know you are ready to date again after separation?

“This wildly varies from person to person,” Judith Sills, a Philadelphia-based psychologist, is reported as saying by “Everyone ends a relationship by grieving the emotional investment.