Today I’m going to show you how to set up the best possible Date Zero (DZ), the very first face-to-face date with a man you’ve met online or through a dating app.

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Once those worries are out of the way, you can actually relax and have fun.

These rules apply to any form of blind date, including those arranged by matchmakers or friends and family. When you have bad DZs, you want to give up on dating entirely; your self-esteem takes a hit and you start to feel that you will never meet the right guy.

“You don’t respond to everything in a nano-second,” said Fein.

“Let some mystery grow.” The next step: Control your texting.

You are safe about it, you don't have men pick you up at your house or your apartment, you meet them at a coffee bar for an hour with a very filled street.

You are very safe, because you are a creature unlike any other, you take real good care of yourself.

SCHNEIDER: Well, we believe that women should put up the ads.

They should not answer ads, and you use a recent photo.

“I know girls who go to a guy’s Facebook page and study it like it’s the Talmud,” said Fein.

“That’s not going to help.” Above all, don’t post schlubby pictures of yourself eating pizza alone on a Saturday night, tweet crazy rants, or cyberstalk him.

While the starting point for my advice is The Rules book series by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider, I also layer in my own strategies—the tips I share with private clients and that I followed, personally, to date for marriage.