Having said that, be wary of a man who is always offering up the kids as an excuse not to spend time with you.

So you might be tempted to let it slide if a guy doesn’t see his kids often "because his ex is crazy" or he "wasn’t ready to be a dad." But don’t.

“The blame game antics are lame cover-ups,” says Klungness.

I once had a blossoming relationship go pear-shaped when the new lady in my life, who’d never had children, got in a strop because I was taking too long to show one of my sons how to use a whipper-snipper and we were late for a brunch date.

It was of no consequence whether we were tucking into eggs benedict at 11 or 11.30, but she interpreted my concern for my son as disregard for her.

Rule No.2 Meet the children when they’re ready, and not before. They want the world they inhabit to be safe and recognisable.

If their dad is dating it is because he has separated from their mother or he is widowed.

You likely can’t drop everything for a date, or sleepover mid-week, so this means you really need to keep the communication flowing to compensate for the lack of face time.

If he’s not down to chat for twenty-minutes on the phone or Skype after your baby is asleep, he’s not dating material for you. Deadbeat Dad You may know how crazy it can be to coordinate with an ex when it comes to visitation and finances.

“If making the effort to get together with you on your turf doesn't interest him, then he’s just not that into you and is likely seeing other women,” warns Klungness. Insta-Dad Your one-date-wonder wants to meet your kid already? Find someone who has a bigger attention span than your toddler does. Your Neighbor He’s hot, single, nice to your kid and gave you an emergency cup of milk once.