No matter what your excuse is for not writing more, it's lame and a turn off. I can't tell you how many women just don't respond to guys who just write one word.

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It’s very unusual for someone to find a good match in their first few attempts.

See it all as experience, not as proof that you’re a loser (or that everyone else is a loser).

Don’t even think about posting a dating advert without a photo. You meet, and the blood drains from their face as they realise that your photo was taken 10 years, five stone and 500 wrinkles ago. You don’t have to write someone an epic love letter (please don’t) – just pick out a couple of appealing points in their ad and write a quick intro email. Some rookies assume that they must answer every email, even if it’s “thanks, but no thanks”. “Thanks but no thanks” can feel more hurtful than no reply.

A picture-less ad says: “I am so ugly I didn’t want to risk a photo,” “I am married,” or “I am on the run from Broadmoor.” Everyone who likes your main photo will want to see more. Whether you’re a man or a woman, a photo with your shirt off makes you look desperate and/or only interested in sex. This is a cruel fact of life for online dating beginners, especially men. Likewise, you won’t “keep them keen” by making them wait days for a reply. Don’t allow an email conversation to drag on for weeks without a date.

As much as some of us hate to admit it, online dating is here to stay. If you ask for my number, make the call and ASK ME OUT. And we're not teenagers who need to hide behind texting until we "feel comfortable" enough to talk. If you don't like to cook, the pictures on your profile shouldn't show you in an apron, holding up an apple pie.

Many companies have great success rates for relationships and marriage, and I'm glad technology has the ability to aid some of us in finding true love. I'm on the site to date and/or presumably to find a mate. And if you want a relationship, you shouldn't put your pole-dancing pictures up.Look, we do want to see your hot bod, but get a friend to take a few pix at the gym or a sporting event. We really don't want to think about what went on in there before or after you took the picture. Write more than a paragraph if you actually want a date. But if you check the box "wants a relationship" and then don't take the time and effort to write a decent profile, the message we receive is: "I'm looking for a hookup" and "I use love to get sex." Actually, that last part is giving you too much credit -- it would require self-awareness. Sure, it works at a party; we're face-to-face, making eye contact. Take off your sunglasses and let us see the real you. We're not in college anymore and this isn't a frat. Stop putting up pix of you with the gaggle of girls you were hanging out with during your drunken escapades. Hey, let's face it: You're the consistent factor in all your relationships. There's nothing worse than showing up and discovering that I can't even recognize you in the restaurant. We can feel or not feel the chemistry, and usually go right into a conversation about what's happening where we are. With just "Hi," I have to assume you're disinterested, bored, or simply inarticulate. Today’s rules are a little more user-friendly – but some of them may surprise you. Many profiles on dating websites start with statements like: “I’m no good at this kind of thing”. If you put yourself down, you won’t sound attractively self-effacing. The aim of the online dating game is to catch the eye of someone you have lots in common with.You do this by being original and, above all, specific about your interests.You can sort through five or more supposedly "highly qualified leads" -- in some cases daily. If you: Put up recent pictures up that show your eyes (and not your lavatory); Put thought into your profile; Message me directly with something thoughtful; Get my number, and Ask me out ..you're proving you're not afraid to take the lead.