One of the best things you can do – especially as a short man – is to develop your sense of presence.

Presence is, simply, your ability to command people’s attention.

But when we feel like someone is giving us their listening instead of waiting for your turn to talk – is absurdly powerful.

Over the years, I’ve dated and slept with women of all heights, ranging from 5’1″ to six-foot tall amazons.

The trick is understanding how to make height less of an issue.

The eye doesn’t travel smoothly down your profile; the sudden change cuts you in half, truncating your torso and skewing your proportions.

Instead, you want clothes that are relatively consistent in hue.

The attitude that your height is a defect and nobody could possibly love a short man is attraction poison. Yes, you may have to fake it for a while as you unlearn the bullshit that’s been shredding your ego.

That’s Just remember: Cultivating an air of ease and self-assurance is not only attractive in and of itself, but it leads into my next tip: It’s not how tall you are; it’s how tall people feel you are.

It’s the way that you can make people focus on present.

OK, before you click the back button in disgust, hear me out. We inevitably find our focus divided among the million little things that occupy our attention.

The thing is, as with many other masculine insecurities, this is predominantly in our heads. Worse, I’m the shortest of all my friends who range from 5’1o” on the short side, to 6’7″ on the tall side.