Bill Manville's most recent work, "Cool, Hip & Sober," is available at all online bookstores.Kate and Jeremy met in 2008, when she was 18 and he was 23, at an Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) meeting.Remember, the right man or woman will find you when you are the one they want to be with." DR.

BILL: A stage that Johnson and your treatment staff at Scripps were telling us didn't come until, coincidentally, the end of the first year of recovery!

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After meeting, Jeremy spent six months wishing he had gotten Kate's number.

Seven years later, Kate and Jeremy are happily married.

There will always be another excuse, another mistake, another relapse, another addiction or anger about a parent’s addiction that they need their lifetime and yours to get over. When my husband first relapsed after his mother died, my well-meaning Christian father told me to “just love him.” But that’s the problem with the addict; the more you love, the more they take of you and everything else, until there’s nothing left to give. While most other people tried to be polite, or pray for me, their comments seemed to gently gloss over what was actually happening. There is nobody that tries harder at being “normal” than an alcoholic and his/her family.

I realized over the years I had become less of myself. When someone doesn’t fit into the perceived notion of what an addict is, it’s hard for people to know what to say. When I finally left my husband, I was only able to do so after taking weeks to compose a list of facts.For readers like Eddie, let me recommend a pertinent video made by some recovering alcoholics, mostly about Eddie's age, discussing the sex part of their inventory-takingÒAA's Sex Inventory. DAVE: Eddie and co-founder Bill Wilson would probably have gotten along quite well.Ultimately, while Bill W and his wife Lois were sort of the Royalty of AA and Alanon-Bill took a long-term mistress on the side, a woman 22 years younger than he was!It is very easy to prioritize a new relationship over one's recovery.Since most alcoholics are not good listeners, and we all need companionship, the best thing to do when dating is, don't date another alcoholic. Look at it as practice -- See if you can develop a relationship before it becomes about sex.Like one who lives in deceit, I stone myself and call for help Your wound grows and grows It slits my throat from vein to vein. There are hundreds of stories and resources for addicts. We go to great lengths to avoid the subject altogether.