She found someone through my parents, so you could label it an ‘arranged marriage’, which has many negative connotations around it.But honestly, these days it’s not like it use to be where you only could see your future partner once or twice before you gave a yes or no to marriage.

Only now that I am happily married do I understand why my parents were so keen on me marrying a Sikh.

Everything just clicked into place, he got me like no one else could”.

In Indian culture we do have a hierarchal caste system, which is still prominent to this day, and while it’s true that there are Indian families who adopt a modern view on dating, my family fall into the old school category …which is where, for me, modern dating gets complicated.

As my parents adopt this old school mentality, they want me to find a girl not only in the same religion but also from the same caste.

This would also result in there being no culture clash that could occur if I was to date someone of a different race or religion and any future child having to grow up with two conflicting view points.

On the other hand, I have struggled with this in the past, due to me having been brought up in a diverse, multi-racial country where Indian people are a minority. I’m on it and most of the people there are any other race apart from Indian.In the world of a British Indian we are closed books when it comes to dating.Unless we are ready to take the next step of marriage, we usually have to be discreet about our relationships, due to the pressures that will come from our elders.The universal goal of a Sikh is to have no hate or animosity to any person, regardless of factors like race, caste, color, creed, gender, or sexuality.Within the last few years the topic of homosexuality has become much more discussed in religions all over the world, making the once taboo topic of homosexuality now a subject for open discussion among adherents.Another option is dating sites, where a couple (like Shaadi) even go as far as segregating the search into different castes as opposed to other dating sites giving the option of race.